Sunday, August 27, 2006

Love Languages!

Beating Heart
I'm sure that most of you have heard of the book, The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman. They also have an edition for children. In it, it says that young children need a little of each love language. And that starting between the ages of 5 and 7 you'll start to see what their primary love language will be.
I wanted to share that I think I'm starting to see what WonderKid's is. I'll tell you, I'm so glad that I had read this book. If I hadn't I would probably not have recognized this for what it was and I would have just been annoyed out of my mind. Since she and and I don't share the same language. I've come to believe that WK's language is Physical Touch, with a little Quality Time thrown in there for good measure. Now, I'll be honest...I kind of thought that only dudes had Physical Touch as their primary all know what I'm talking about *wink wink*. But looking back, WK has always been very affectionate. She loves hugs, kisses and cuddle time. She loves to invade people's personal space (something we're hoping and trying to tone down a little.) Since Mr.Wonder has been gone, WK has the best night's sleep if I cuddle with her for a while before she settles in. It seems like she feels safer if she's had that physical touch, that snuggling, before she falls asleep. On night's that we do this, she always wakes up and says, "I didn't have any bad dreams."
I feel like I've made this huge break through. I've found a way that I can show my daughter that I love her. All this time, I've been showering her with gifts (I don't want any comments on that from my sister's=)) because that is my love language, Gift Giving. Now, I know that when she's constantly up in my's because she's trying to show me that she loves me and wants to know that I love her as well. I'm not gonna lie to ya, I know I will probably still get annoyed with it from time to time, because Physical Touch is way down on my list. But I'm going to make every effort to remember this day and this revelation. I want to keep her little love tank full. I want her to know she's loved and if that means I have to put up with 9 million hugs and kisses a day...well, I think I can handle that.

1 comment:

Heather said...

He has some wonderful music too!! Awww. little angel :) I was never a touchy person til I had kids :)