Thursday, April 20, 2006

It is finished...

The crisis is over! The wishy-washiness, finito! Well, not totally. Hunny and I have decided that 3 is the magic number for us. Monkey will be it for us. I will admit that I do still occasionally have little urges of wanting another one, but they quickly disappear. I don't want to feel guilty about this anymore. I do love babies, I just don't want anymore of my own. Things are good in our little family. GUILT WILL NO LONGER BE IN MY VOCABULARY! At least about this. =) I can tell you honestly that I'm not looking forward to dealing with comments about my sweet Monkey turning out to be a horrid spoiled child. I just recently read a post about whether it's way more work with the second one. And there were a couple comments on there about how it's terrible having an only child and you should never do that to you kid. To that I say, "BALDERDASH!" I don't think it'll be easy peasy to make sure she's not one of those kids. I know she's already got a few of the signs, but we're working on it. I've read a book (big surprise, I know) called The Seven common Sins of Parenting an Only Child. It's given me a lot of insight about what I can do now and in the future to help Monkey be the best kid she can be. I actually want to buy this one so I have it on hand. I may do a future post summarizing it (though there are only 2 people I know planning on having an only). I just wanted to tell you guys what's up and how this part of my life was going. I won't be discussing the "decision" aspect of this again. It's over and done! I'm moving on and focusing on being the best Mom to an Only there has ever been!

4 comments:

dani said...

who says she is going to be soiled rotten. who ever that is is rude. you should never say that to the kids parent. at least not in that way

i dont think there is anything wrong with having a 'spoiled' child, as long as she has manners, knows she doesnt get everything she wants, and has patience.

Patience is good (i think) for not spoiling a child. it makes them realize they dont get everything right away.

and you child can never be spoiled in loving ways...cuddling, hugs, kisses

surcie said...

Just because she's an "only" does not mean she'll be spoiled. I know quite a few kids (middle schoolers and high schoolers) who are wonderful, mature, compassionate kids, and they're "onlies."

If you're concerned about her being spoiled, make an effort to expose her to opportunities for serving others. Even at an early age, she can go with you to deliver turkey dinners to needy families at Thanksgiving. Or help you select some books on a child's Angel Tree wish list. Yes, she will get more attention from you if there aren't other kids in the house. And how fortunate she will be! By giving her opportunities to help others, she'll learn just how blessed she is.

Heather said...

Whatever you decide, you have given it alot of consideration and prayer..you can rest in that. Monkey is precious and that will never change (well maybe briefly as a teen ;) ).

Michelle said...

I am glad you are finally at peace w/this decision. We are still wanting only one, and I need to get that book!!